Marraige? Expectations? Whats new? (Reflection 2)

On that day I was feeling a bit nervous with going mostly because I thought that there would be a lot of lovey dovey young couples and I would be out of please (also I was a bit late). Anyway, as I arrived there I saw a lot of old couples and started thinking, would I be that old when I want to get married or have a chance to? I actually don’t want to be that old when I would get married, I mean how would I enjoy the fun of being young, energetic, and promiscuous at that age? My partner would be that old also, EW! No, think that I won’t allow that to happen, I want to be married young. Moving on, I am happy that when I came there that I had an open mind and ready to experience what the pre cana (which I originally thought was pre-k) seminar is all about. Well I had an idea that it would be about marriage since it is a pre-wedding seminar. Duh. Anyway moving on again. During the talk I correlated having a girlfriend and having a wife the same when being there because I didn’t have a wife and I wanted to evaluate myself if I am being a good boyfriend and if I am ready to be married. I don’t know if I am ready but I believe that I have some aspects in a good marriage down, such as good communication, which I truly believe that I have been doing my best to fulfill in my relationship. Why do I say this? It is because I created a honesty policy between us where we promised to tell each other everything, even the not so good to hear stuff. This creates a good line of communication between one another. This also allows us to talk about our problems between one another, to at least try to fix it before it escalates any further. Another reason as to why I believe that I have good communication with my girlfriend is that I always hang out with her, especially after school so we could talk about anything and everything. I believe this is because, before she was my girlfriend, she was my best friends. This makes it natural for us to hang out all the time. I don’t really understand how everything became the way it is but I am happy for it. I am willing to endure our petty fights just as long as I get to stay with her. I really want to work on this relationship. But during the talk, I did notice something about us. I did feel unappreciated at the time. This revelation happened when the speaker was talking about how one should appreciate what the other tries to do for them. I mean, I have been doing a lot to show her I am working on this relationship. I always text er good night and good morning (even if she doesn’t reply back), buy her desserts or sweets just for her (at random times, of course), always making ‘hatid’ to her jeep, and I always try to be sweet with her. But the problem is, I don’t even see if she appreciates my gestures or not. What she sees is that I am being ‘KSP’. Maybe that’s why I get really annoyed at times. Needless to say, I talked to her about it afterward and we resolved the issue. She became more appreciative and I became less sweet. Now I barely text her at night or morning. Anyway, moving on. I do believe I learned quite a lot from the pre cana seminar. Especially about how it opened my eyes to the evil behind the RH Bill. Before I truly believed that it was right, but not anymore. I do believe that this experience was truly eventful and one that I hope to receive only one more time in the upcoming future. 

What a Happy family :D

Me and my girlfriend now :D